The Gardner Gang

Solvang Century TNT Ride

2010-03-22T08:54:00.000-07:00

If you haven't watched the little imovie I put together from my Solvang ride click here to see it.

Gardner Family say thanks for your support!

2010-02-16T13:54:00.000-08:00

Putting together this video was very fun. I appreciate my family for helping me with all aspects of it, they were all very good sports to put up with my "I've got to get this finished" obsession.My sweet husband isn't in this video but with out his support it wouldn't have happened. He is the reason I excel in everything I do, he let's me be me. Most of the time the reason I shine is because he's the one holding the light making sure it is pointed my way.

Thank you family immediate and extended, for you support help and encouragement words as I worried and fretted about reaching this fundraising goal. It was way out of my comfort zone but just like everything else, sometimes feeling uncomfortable is a sign you might become a better person because of it.

I love you all.

-Susan

And That's Why

2010-02-09T21:31:00.000-08:00

This has been an awesome experience and I haven't even gotten to Solvang yet.
Thank you family for your loving and generous support!

- And isn't Weston's' song so cool?

-Susan

susanrides.2ya.com

The 25% Proposition

2010-02-02T23:46:00.000-08:00

life's little pleasures we forget about sometimes

2010-01-12T18:26:00.000-08:00

Aren't these the cutest kids? Oh whoops, how did that picture get there? Oh well I guess I have to blog about it now!JK

I think the last time I had a bike was when I was 14. For years that's how I got around. There wasn't anywhere I couldn't go on my bike. Mind you that bike was a BMX bike that I put together piece by piece. My friends and I used to make jumps, ride the canyons and take on the motocross trails. Crazy. I don't know why I'm still alive, but that was so fun. I also loved jumping on and riding to my friends, to the store, to the basketball court or to softball practice. Those were the days. Soon after that, I started going to HS, getting rides from friends, parents and eventually driving myself. No more bike riding. Fast forward 34 years. When I got on a bike again it all came flooding back. Whoo hoo! Many times on my Saturday training rides we climb up steep long hills, but oh how I love kicking it in the highest gear and cranking those pedals going down!!!! 45 miles per hour feels a lot different and more fun on a bike! Zooooooom! Sometimes I just plain let out a scream of pure joy! (I can't help myself)
Anyway I'm having a great time - wow just what I need, a new guilty pleasure.

Ya know, This bike of mine isn't really that fancy, it's entry level, but I found it pretty much brand new on Craig's list for a steal, after looking for about 3 months.

I think it's dumb how I'm so excited about it and how sometimes I just like to stare at it. But I can't help it, it's just so darn fun.

Download the Gardner Family's new rendition of "Carol of the Bells" and help fight Blood Cancer!

2010-01-02T21:03:00.000-08:00

Hi Loved ones and blog lurkers! (We love you too)

It has been a fantastic Christmas season for the Gardner Family. Caitlin, Kamden and Tyler all were down from Utah to celebrate with us. (I love it when it is our year to have everyone home.) We did lots of fun things together. Caroling was an especially great time this year--having all the family voices was wonderful. Weston created a new arrangement of "Carol of the Bells" for us. Because it went over so well with all those that heard it, we took the time to professionally record it. We would like to use the song with two goals in mind. First, to share it with our friends and family and anyone else you'd like to pass it on to. Second, as a fundraiser for my Leukemia/Lymphoma Society 100 mile Sulvang ride. I'm quite behind in my fundraising goals and have my first deadline coming up Jan 22 (25% of 2700.00, you do the math! Not there yet!) So, we are hoping those that download the song would make a donation in appreciation. Our song can be downloaded by clicking on:
Gardner's Carol of the Bells

Donations (of any size, it all counts!) can be made by clicking here: Susanrides100

Many of you may not realize that I am riding in honor of my brother-in-law, Glen DeMarcus, who has been diagnosed with blood cancer. I'm looking forward to having his name embroidered into my jersey as I ride the 100. Help Glen- help me reach my goal!

Thanks So Much!

Love, Susan

Gardner Brother Fun

2009-12-17T14:16:00.000-08:00

2009-12-08T06:08:00.000-08:00

Wow, it's been a long time since I've updated our blog we have been busy with school activities, birthday parties, Good Morning Milo shows, holiday celebrations, church callings and keeping up with all of you! We are doing well and are looking forward to this Christmas season when all our kids will be home with us to enjoy time together and celebrating the miracle of our Savior Jesus Christ's birth.

I wanted to let you all know that recently I've set a goal to ride in the Sulvang Century in March 2010. Ride meaning on a rode bike, the kind you pedal, not the kind you have to wear leather and have a tatoo. I thought I'd put those 200 spin classes I've taken in the past 8 months, and put them to good use. Better yet, I have joined the Lymphoma Leukemia Society "Team in Training" to help raise funds for the cure of blood cancers, in the process. In addition to my early morning spin classes, I meet with my team every Saturday morning to train for the 100mi ride. Our first two meetings were at Mission Bay where we rode 20mi. learning how to ride a pace line. For the next three months, we will meet all over the county putting in more and more miles gaining skills and stamina preparing for Sulvang. I was talking to Teagan recently about the ride and she asked me, "Do you really think you'll be able to to that Mom?" My answer, "Absolutely." I know I can do it. Since my ACL injury 13 years ago, I have kept fit, but, I have been limited to specific workouts and activities. Spin class and now road bike cycling has enabled me to physically challenge myself far passed those limits without fear of injury. Cycling has unlocked a part of me that I haven't be able to explore for awhile and it is sweet to feel that again.
So family and friends and whom ever visits our family blog anonymously,here's the plug, please support the Lymphoma Leukemia Society by making a donation. Your donation would help find life saving solutions to those suffering with blood cancers and help me meet my personal Team in Training fund raising goal. I want to get to Sulvang and prove to Teagan that this mom of seven can indeed ride a 100 miles and have the legs to celebrate about it that night! Can I do it, sheez!

Please make your donations here, Thank You!: http://pages.teamintraining.org/sd/solvang10/sgardnelk6

Camping and Fishing Trip with Grandma and Grandpa

2009-07-21T17:31:00.000-07:00

We just had the best camping trip ever. I mean ever. Grandpa Carpenter decided that he and Grandma were going to take their family fishing. Grandpa planned everything. We traveled 7 hours to Bishop California, just 15 minute south of Mammoth. It might as well been on another planet as it was so beautiful there. We camped at Brown's Owen River Campgrounds. The camp was flat and grassy surrounded by mountains, we had fishing just 50 yards from our tents.

I have never eaten so well on a camp out. Foil diners? I don't think so. Grandpa is an expert dutch oven chef. We had tender corned beef brisket Saturday night and melt in your mouth beef roast Sunday night.

Friday and Saturday were our fishing days. Here is the place were I will boast about being the first one to catch a fish! It was so fun! What was more fun (for me at least) was putting another worm on the hook and catching the second one just 10 minutes later! Whoo Hoo! In fact, those were the only fish caught Friday. Saturday was another story. We got up early the next morning, skipped breakfast, got our poles ready and headed across the grassy meadow to throw our lines in.

Grandpa was a great tutor. He gave each of the kids casting lessons and it must have worked because Rilyn caught the first fish of the day. Soon enough the family was smiling big as they reeled in those flippy-floppy brown trout! All in all, we caught 11 trout. Strangely enough they were pulled out of the same spot in the river. We named our fishing hole, "Carpenter's Bend". A highlight in everyone's memory was Grandpa gutting a fish, showing everyone that it was a female fish because was full of "Roe" (eggs) then promptly put them in his mouth and ate them. I thought Caitlin would puke on the spot. Nevertheless, everyone enjoyed the fishing experience, even Brittan who is not fond of fish, was a good sport . She said she was fishing just to "practice her casting". When she hooked two fish during her "practicing" while reeling them in, she would apologize to the fish and refuse to touch it after that. By the way, she caught the biggest fish of all. (Of course.)

Inbetween times, the kids had squirt gun battles, threw a Frisbee and football and played card games,(legal ones)and ate. we made many visits to the "hungry tent" it was well stalked full of wonderful things you don't feel guilty eating because you're camping.

Another activity was Brittan practicing her driving around the camp grounds, in grandma's car. Not to be out done, Teagan had her fair share of driving around camp as well. She's a good driver even though she's twelve.

Each night before bed and after the evening clean up, grandpa made a fire and we gathered around for our nightly devotional. We shared a spiritual thought, sang camp songs, played games and made treats. Sunday we organized a quasi church meeting with hymns, talks and discussion about gospel principles. It was cool.

We were about 15 minutes from Mammoth so we took the quick trip up and loved the amazing beauty there. We hiked trails, saw Devils Post Pile and drank from a delicious soda spring we discovered bubbling up next to the river. It was a great adventure for all of us.

I could go on and on but I won't.

Did I mention this was the best camping trip ever?

Here are some pictures.

Parking at the Beach...the True Test of Faith

2009-06-27T20:31:00.000-07:00

We went to the beach today. La Jolla Shores, it was a Saturday and we didn't get there early, we got there around noon.Everyone here knows that's not a good plan. It is busy and there was no parking.

It is so funny to think about looking for a space to park in when there aren't any. In fact, you and many other people are circling around hoping you'll come up lucky and get a spot.

As you are moving slowly up and down the parking isles,you're watching for people that look like they have been to the beach and are finished. It can be tricky though, sometimes you come up on people when it's hard to tell if they have just got their beach stuff out or if they are putting it in.

Then there are the people who go to their car like they are finished with the beach,but aren't leaving. That's awkward. Especially when you follow them with your car as they walk to their car, put your blinker on to signal the other cars searching that "you claim this space", only to have the people give you a funny look, wave you off and finally tell you they're not leaving. Wow. Why don't they tell you that when you are following them with your car?

So you continue to circle and search, circle and search, never giving up that faith that you too will find a space. I hate it when you don't see a person getting into their car to leave and you pass them just missing the parking space by a car length. The guy behind you couldn't be happier.

It is amazing how long you will wait for a parking space with your blinker on while the people go through there rituals to prepare to leave the beach. Today we waited while a guy, took off all his wet stuff, put them away, took a modified shower, dried off, put on dry clothes, washed and dried his board, and put it in it's little case and strapped it to his car. The funny thing was we weren't even waiting to get the spot, we were in the line of cars behind the car, that was getting the spot. Well at least we were entertained.

All this, strangely enough, isn't really annoying you know, like Caitlin said today, "Mom it is just a part of the experience of going to the beach" No one really gets mad about the process either, it's like everyone understands this is just something that's expected. I also think it's because you're going to the beach. You know, going to the beach is always worth it.

Oddly enough, if you're patient enough, you will get a parking space. And when you do it is the greatest feeling of excitement. WhooHoo! I've got a parking space! Yes! It's always worth the circling and searching because now you get to stay at the beach for as long as you want!

And think when your finished, think how happy you're going to make someone when they spot you heading for your car.

Oh the beach, we love it.

Haircuts

2009-06-26T12:41:00.000-07:00

I've been thinking about cutting my hair for a while now. Not that my hair was really long, but it was long to me.I liked growing out my hair, it was fun to put it back in a pony tail and blow dry it out and have it hit my shoulders again. But there were draw backs that started getting on my nerves.

Like having to put it back in a ponytail and blow drying it.

I think long hair is over rated, for me anyway. Don't get me wrong, if you have long hair. Great. Enjoy. I probably even think it is really pretty, but for me it is just hot and in the way too much.

I've had my hair short in the past but I didn't want it like that again but I didn't want to look like I belonged in Hillcrest either, something fun but still feminine.

I know this isn't really that interesting to read about, after all we all get our hair cut. But, I was so surprised at how much I loved watching all the hair fall down around me. I was excited when it was all gone and I was free again. So I thought I'd write about it.

I knew there would be family members that wouldn't be as excited as I was. It was so funny how much I didn't care! When I walked in the door of my Mom's house, Rilyn let out a blood curdling scream,(so Rilyn). In fact my Mom who was in the kitchen, thought after hearing the scream, that an intruder had entered the house. She immediately began debating whether to grab a knife and defend her grandchildren or grab them and whisk them out the back door. After seeing it was me, she was relieved and even said she loved my haircut! Jaren, said, "It looked bad and wanted it back "the mommy way."

Caitlin, Brittan and Teagan said,they like it better than they did yesterday.Which actually makes sense for any woman that has ever got her haircut.

Weston likes it - Weston loves when people get new haircuts. Doug of course said he thought it was very cute. Which is true. :0)

So that's my ramble about my haircut. So much "to do" about hair and cutting it.

Funny.

Fun week!

2009-05-24T16:11:00.000-07:00

This last week was great, Kamden came down for a visit since she is out of school and has some time before teaching summer school, we've been keeping busy and enjoying being together.

Later in the week Caitlin's good friend from BYU came down for surprise visit. It is a major feat to keep anything a surprise for Caitlin, she is just too sharp and too good noticing anything out of the ordinary, but we managed to actually pull it off. I am very sorry we didn't get her totally surprised reaction on video. It was something to behold.

Kamden has been creative making puppets with J and Rilyn, we have loved a trip to the beach, BBQing and getting back in touch with family and friends through visiting and music. Saturday we all climbed aboard the trolley and made a day of exploring downtown and loving the perfect San Diego weather. At Seaport Village we emptied a bag of Costco size Dorritos, Pretzels finished up sandwiches we didn't eat at the beach! We played catch, threw a Frisbee watched people fly their kites into the trees and took in all the sights and free sidewalk entertainment by the harbor .

Our city is beautiful!!

Last week I lost my mind just long enough for me to agree to help chaperon a youth 80's themed dance at our stake building. So, after our downtown excursion I took a trip to the local Salvation Army and found some really rad 80's clothes.
My daughters and Mom took it from there giving me that perfect 80's big hair and make up. Don't I look amazing? ...Oh...Wow.

We had a great week together.

A Fun outing with J and Cait

2009-05-12T21:51:00.000-07:00

Want to do something really fun with a three year old? Buy an all day ticket and ride the green line on the San Diego Trolley. Have your three year old sit across from you be sure they are close to the window. Instant fun for them and entertainment for you! It's so worth the $5. Everything is so interesting for them, the sounds the sights the people and how fast the trolley goes! Cait and I just sat and watched Jaren react to everything! We got off at Fashion Valley and while Cait shopped Jaren and I rode the escalators. This has been a favorite of his since he could hold my finger and stand up. (Another simple but very fun adventure for a three year old.)We went into Old Navy (there's an escalator there too.) He found some boots he really liked. We decided against- them not quite big enough. We met Cait for a $1.25 Tuesday Fish Taco at Rubios. We watched a couple of ducks at the food court pick at a pizza crust. On the way back to the trolley Jaren noticed the alphabet letter on a store window. He pointed at each letter and said each one out loud..V-I-C-T-O-R-I-A S-E-C-R-E-T. Humm..

On the way home Caitlin couldn't resist him any more and gave him a smacker on the cheek for both of us- weather he liked it or not!

It was a very simple but fun time together. I love being old and having a three year old that's not my grandson! Life is good!

Mother's Day Talk, May 10, 2009

2009-05-11T11:41:00.000-07:00

Mother’s Day Talk May 10, 2009

Brothers and sisters may I speak from my heart?

I know this day is a happy day for most people, but I also understand it can be an uncomfortable day for others. Not everyone is a Mother. Some may be missing their Mothers or, maybe not everyone has had a happy and positive relationship with their mother.

Whatever place you may be in, I hope for the spirit to bear witness of the love Heavenly Father has for all of his children no matter what life experience has brought to you, on this Mother’s Day.

May I share some of the things I’ve thought about this week as I’ve thought about being a Mom.

•Like you, I have had the opportunity to come in contact with many, many women who are mothers. One thing I have noticed that we all have in common is “that none of us are perfect”. And that’s OK with me because, after having seven children of my own, I have also learned that there are “no perfect children.”

•I have thought a lot about how varied our lives are. I find it interesting how everybody’s life experiences are different, even when you are raised in the same family.

I’m reaching the time in my life now when I am beginning to get unsolicited reports back from my older children on how they think I did as a mom, how I’m doing now and what they think could be improved. So far they have been very kind and have gone easy on me about most of it. I have appreciated their insights and have taken much of their suggestions to heart.

•I have a motto in my life. “I will not take credit for the good things my children do, therefore, I will not take the blame for the dumb things they do either.”

I will, however, take responsibility for teaching them the gospel and to love them the best way I know how. And I will never stop trying to improve the way I do both of those things.

•I will be forever thankful to all those wonderful women who gave me the sage advice by word and example to savor the time I have with my children. Taking this advice to heart has blessed my life immensely; my only regret was that I didn’t take it to heart sooner.

•I have thought about how life experience can make you a "prophetess, seer and revelator" in your own home with your own family. Think about it, how often have you said or heard a Mother say,

“Something’s going to get broken!” or “Somebody’s going to get hurt!”

Just before you’re sweeping up shattered glass or headed out the door to the Emergency Room. Which brings us to another familiar phrase, “I knew it!” and followed by, “Why doesn’t anybody listen to me?”

•Motherhood has been, and continues to be, an interesting experience for me. One of the important lessons I’ve learned so far is: it is not a job for quitters,the faint of heart, or for those that can’t admit they’ve made mistakes.

I believe it’s also imperative to understand that Heavenly Father knows our children better than we do, so it would be wise to seek out his advice often.

That’s been the key for me as a Mom, I have embraced the fact that I don’t know everything, I just know what works.

What works is following the teachings of the gospel of Jesus Christ. Since it is Mother’s Day, may I say the gospel of Jesus Christ applies to every aspect of being a mom.

It gives understanding and insights about what it means to sacrifice. Should I implement the demands of justice? Or should I show mercy?

The scriptures gives us great examples and understanding about what it means to have
compassion, to be consistent, when to be flexible, or firm.

I personally have a deep love and appreciation for the principle of repentance. I have had to use this…a lot. After all, There is no handbook that comes with each child on how to be their mother!

The Atonement of Jesus Christ works in my life, I have felt the freeing power and relief forgiveness brings. I marvel at the change of heart that can come and enable me to improve and become more like the mom the savior would have me be.

It is also clear to me that this will be a very long work in progress.

•Another key element that works, is learning to recognize and follow what has been described as that “gut feeling”, also known as “Mothers intuition” or what we all know really is, the promptings of the Holy Ghost.

As a parent, I would be clueless without this direction.

I admit that, more often than I like, I am left to myself to figure things out on my own. But sometimes you just get those feelings.

•Like, the strong feeling you get that a child could use some extra time with you so you change your plans and make time to be with them, one on one.

•There are times when you know there is an extra hug needed or when you know exactly what should be taught, mentioned or discussed in Family Home evening, family prayer or discussions around the dinner table.

•Or there are moments when you when you have been asked a difficult question and are searching for just the right answer and somehow the right words come into your mind and you manage to say them just the right way. On the other hand, there have been times when the words that come to mind have said, “Keep your mouth quiet, and just listen.”

The directions I get most of the time, however, are for me as I struggle to figure out the best way to be a Mom at any given moment.

The spirit bears witness to me, when I’ve done something well and I feel peace.

On the other hand, I also know when the spirit withdraws because I have
reacted too harshly, have been impatient, unfair, or have been insensitive. Then comes the prompting to recognize my mistake and apologize to the one I have offended.

There is no sweeter joy than to feel the spirit confirm… that you know you are doing what you should do…., when you should do it.

I know being obedient to Gods commands works.

I have found that expressing gratitude works, it always invites the spirit and strengthens relationships whether it be in our families or otherwise.

I have felt strongly many times and often, to express sincere appreciation to my children. I am urged by the spirit to take the time to thank them for things I may come to expect or otherwise take for granted.

Thank them for the hard work they put in at school, going to church without a fuss, serving a mission, attending seminary, wanting to go to the temple for baptisms, or for sharing or helping a sibling or for doing what I ask them, - the first time.

Instead of being just happy about it and letting it go by, I have been urged to recognize, give a positive word and express my gratitude.

In the document, The Family: A Proclamation to the World , our prophet has taught us:

“Happiness in family life is most likely to be achieved when founded upon the teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ.

I know there are no guarantees when it comes to raising a child in the gospel and then having them embrace it and carry it forward in their own lives.

The Lord in his wisdom has given us all the gift of agency. I will not take the credit for the righteous choices my children have made, But I must express my deep sense of gratitude I feel for them for doing so. My children have made my life sweeter than I could have ever imagined. I am very fortunate. And to use another Mom quote, “I really do hope your children turn out just like you!”

Life can be sweet but it is not without its challenges

There was a time in my early life that, somehow, I got the notion that if I was obedient, faithful and kept the commandments, everything would go smooth in my life, I would avoid any problems and all would be well, all the time.

This was an obvious misconception. We have been taught by living prophets that challenges come to all. Life is a journey that has its bumps and jolts.

When I consider some of the challenges that can come to us in mortality, I think “bumps and jolts nothing!” How about more like,a giant train wreck that comes to a screeching halt right in yourliving room!

These are the challenges and trials that seem to wipe out, turn around and redefine everything you thought you knew about your life.

The miracle of the gospel of Jesus Christ is that it works during these times too.

In D&C 122 The Savior is speaking to Joseph Smith while in liberty jail. Through these verses he paints a vivid picture that gives us sure understanding that he knows what peril, deep sorrow and despair can come to us.

I’m beginning to realize that to become acquainted with grief, worry, and disappointment, is as much a part of the plan as knowing true joy.

In closing may I share an experience I had early in my life before I was a mother?

I remember expecting my first child and going to register at the hospital that I’d deliver in. There was a woman there sitting in the waiting room. She looked at me and asked me if this was my going to be my first child. I said yes, and I’ve never forgotten what she told me.

She said, “Get ready for your whole life to change; after you have your baby nothing will be the same.” I was surprised at the emotions that statement invoked in me.

After all, I liked my life, I loved my life, I didn’t want everything to change, why would someone say such a thing?

I soon learned how wise that woman was.

In Mathew chapter 16 verse 25 the Savior taught,
For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: and whosoever will lose his life for my sake shall find it.

Haven’t there been times in our life when we’ve planned out how we wanted everything to go?- And then real life happened, and nothing went as we had planned.

It’s at those times, I know I’ve have heard myself say, “Hey, I didn’t sign up for this!”

Kind of like when that new baby is put in your arms for the first time. We can’t help but imagine all the joy and happiness that is ahead for us.

Then, as a new mother, you learn quickly that true “joy and happiness” often comes by those things we have to do that “we didn’t sign up for”

Painstakingly those rewards of ”joy and happiness” are earned by many sleepless nights, when we are up caring for a sick child or up late worrying about a well one.

I believe, Its during times we are doing the things, “we didn’t sign up for” are the times we are being taught how to love in a whole new way.

The lady at the hospital was right, When you begin to put time and service in behalf of another, whether you’re a Mom or not, Your whole life will change and never be the same.

But what she failed to mention was what the Lord clearly teaches.

That is, as we lose our lives, through obedience to his commandments, through sacrifice and service, we will discover a much, much better one.

May the Lord bless all of us to see the miracle of the Lords plan for us, no matter where life has taken us, may we embrace and appreciate the time we have here, may we embrace and stick to “what works”. Even the gospel of Jesus Christ.

In the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.

What do I want for Mother's day? Come to spin class with me!

2009-05-08T08:49:00.000-07:00

Bright and early Doug, Weston, Caitlin and Teagan joined me for spin class! Brittan had a AP test and seminary so next time huh? It was so fun having my family in class this morning the gym was a buzz with "Hey cool Susan brought her family today!" My gym friends got to meet (some of the )people I love most in the world. We all had a great time although a few will be sitting a little more carefully the next couple days! I love you sweet family!!!!!
(I must be feeling brave to post these pictures!)

Happy Birthday Weston! We Love you!

2009-05-05T18:13:00.000-07:00

Shhhh....don't tell him.

2009-04-22T20:18:00.000-07:00

Sorry...but I think this kid is handsome...too bad it's me thinking it..I have learned Mom's opinions don't count. But I had to post it any way..after all..I am the Mom. :0)

Let's go fly a kite!

2009-04-15T19:40:00.000-07:00

What do you do on a windy day in San Diego? You go fly kites that's what. It was unusually windy and chilly on Tax Day. But we decided to venture out, get some kites and have some fun. At first you can see not everyone was thrilled about it, however as the time went by we all got into the fun of it and had a great time!
What is it about flying kites that's so fun?! Woohoo!

Easter at Grandma and Grandpa's

2009-04-13T14:29:00.000-07:00

We had a great day with Grandma and Grandpa. They prepared a most delicious dinner (as usual). BBQ boneless pork ribs , mashed potatoes, corn on the cob and yummy salad then Easter candy and strawberry shortcake for dessert. We love to video chat with Caitlin and Kamden on Sundays. Gotta love technology!Grandma and Grandpa hid goodie eggs in the back yard, we had to hold the big kids back to save some for the younger ones. We all posed for a family picture, minus Kam and Tyler, minus Caitlin - all in Utah, minus, Jaren who was snoozen in the back room on grandmas bed. We missed John, Jen and Porter but send our love to them!

2009-04-13T14:25:00.000-07:00

Good Job Rilyn!

2009-04-13T14:14:00.000-07:00

It was a fun play week for Rilyn, thanks to everyone that came to see the play!

Peter Pan Jr. Theater presents "Oliver"

2009-03-25T11:44:00.000-07:00

Hey just a reminder if any of you would like to come see the play.
It will run April 1-4. There is a matinee as well on Saturday. Here is the website if you'd like more information and it also has on line ticket purchasing if you are interested.http://www.ppjt.org/ Rilyn would love to see you there!

2009-03-24T08:16:00.000-07:00

Child labor love....

2009-03-24T08:08:00.000-07:00

Jaren has always loved working out in the yard with Daddy. Actually, working with Daddy anywhere is his favorite thing to do!Here are some pics of a hard working three year old, I especially like the "UnderRoos" shot.

What would you make out of a paper cup, 8" piece of ribbon, paper plate,three toothpicks, a fork and a paper napkin?

2009-03-19T09:06:00.000-07:00

This is what Teagan came up with. Way to go Tea!

My Dad by Brittan Gardner

2009-03-15T19:50:00.000-07:00

Brittan put this together in her Tec Discoveries class. Doug got down the boxes from the garage with all the high school stuff to let her select what she needed for the project. Brittan asked if he would pick out some music she could use. For him that was the best part! Going through his albums!!! He really liked the video but he loves the music! Thanks Brittan, Enjoy!

my thoughts from my brain...

2009-03-14T17:54:00.000-07:00

Ive been thinking lately, I really think it's fun to be me. I mean, don't get me wrong, it's not always easy, exciting or flashy, but for me, it's fun.

It struck me the other day as I was finishing up my cycling class. We were on our last "hill", I was tired, sucking for air and soaked. Suddenly I felt a rush of gratitude. Gratitude that I could feel that way. Gratitude that I had the ability to feel that way. I thought, someday I will not be able to do this, I will only be able to remember and talk about doing this...(probably to people that won't really care that I did this.) So, I felt happy in my misery and it was fun.

I love to be a mom of 7. It is so funny to me to think that 7 people call me mom. I would have never guessed I would have had a large family. Never. But I am so happy about it. It doesn't seem like that many really. They are all people I love to be with. I love them all. They are fun.

My kids play sports. They always have. To organize schedules attend soccer and softball games is something I've done for 20 years now. I sit and enjoy the games. I roll my eyes at the parents that can't just sit and enjoy.
It's fun to just sit and enjoy.

I have a husband that makes my life easy. He has always let me be me. Never has tried to change me. He is kind, easy going, fair and always gives you the benefit of the doubt. He laughs at my goofiness. He works hard. He is helpful and just plain a good man. His love is consistent. Through poor and a little less poor, marathon body to pregnant mega mom body, he has been my number one fan. Because I have him, and love him, it's fun to be me.

It's fun to be me because I know who I am. I know why I'm here. When you know that,it gives you perspective on everything else. It's fun to have a sure measuring stick for life. It's not fun to have to guess. It's fun to know.

In a strange way it's good to be me because I know I can be better. I am familiar with my weaknesses. They are not hard to figure out for me. They are obvious, and I claim them as my own. It's good to be me because I know they don't have to be permanent. It is fun to be me because I have faith and hope in my life.

As Andrea would say, "That's all."

A Trip to Birch Aquarium

2009-02-22T14:43:00.000-08:00

Friday, Jaren, Grandma and I took a trip the the Birch Aquarium. I don't think I've been there since my older group of kids went as elementary school age kids. It was a beautiful San Diego Day to spend in the hills above the beach learning about fishes and all their varieties. Afterward, we took our time eating lunch outside and soaked up the warm sunshine. I would have to say it was one one the most perfect outings we've ever had. Thanks for sharing it with us Grandma, we love you!

Hot Wheel Jump For Jaren

2009-02-19T09:02:00.000-08:00

Weston made this simple jump with the Hot Wheels track for Jaren. Little brother loved it!

Long Live the Hot Wheel Track!

2009-02-18T19:58:00.000-08:00

Jaren has discovered the Hot Wheels Track. First it was his Daddy's, then cousin Jake's next big brother Weston and now it is his to discover. We had a fun time today trying out the different cars to see which did the best. In case you're curious, the bright orange Camino won hands down.Gotta love the classic toy that never gets old.Zooooommmmmm.....

2009-02-17T09:48:00.000-08:00

Good Morning Milo will be preforming Saturday, February 21,7:00pm at Soma.
Soma 3350 Sports Arena Blvd. Suite I
San Diego, CA 92110
Great Band. Great Kids.Great Show.

Ok..these things work.

2009-02-10T15:32:00.000-08:00

My Mom gave me a box of these green bags about two months ago. So I decided to try them, I've used them ever since, they are great and do keep the fruits and vegetables, cheese or bread, or what ever bag you are using them for, fresh way past the time you'd normally expect the food to spoil.They're reusable to boot. It is nice to finally find product that actually does what it claims to do!

Our 9 year Olds' List of Goals.

2009-02-09T11:25:00.000-08:00

Our 9 year old made some goals for herself and put them on a list.
I love this list.
They are in no particular order.
The check mark means she's met the goal.
Great list Kiddo!

Gymming...

2009-02-05T18:40:00.000-08:00

Hello hello,
I know don't fall over dead that I'm actually putting something up on the blog.
So remember how I used to play soccer a lot and run a lot because of it, well obviously the shape that I had then is not quite the shape I have now and frankly I haven't really my more mature curvy round shape since I've been home from my mission and married. But lately I kept hearing things coming from the prophets mouth's like, bodies are great gifts, treat them as the amazing creations that they are, exercise etc. But I knew very well how horribly out of shape I was and understood the drag of actually trying to go back. Then in started to snow and be really cold outside. But it seemed every time the sun would come out I'd feel alive again. Feeling alive I wanted to start to do fun things again, but it was still to cold to do anything. I started thinking about the fact that even though my brothers and sisters would beg to differ I am still young and have a great opportunity to do my body a favor and use it! I started watching "The Biggest Looser" and realizing that my body knew how to run hard and work and be disciplined, something that a lot of these amazing people had to learn to do to loose A LOT of weight. I knew it was time, I had been thinking of getting a gym pass when Jennifer, my mother in law, told me that she and her sisters, mom and niece were going to be going a "biggest looser" contest, everyone putting money into the pot to be awarded to the person that looses the most percentage of weight. Frankly I don't think it will be me because of my awesome rippling muscles, but man wouldn't it be great if I did. (Secretly I really do want to be the biggest looser) So I did my research and found the right gym for me at 24 hour fitness down the road, these people are a little more normal and a little less intense than Gold's. (I feel like wearing big t-shirts is acceptable here- and I like it) anyway...mom's facebooked something that reminded me that she still goes to the gym at 5:30am and it hit me how if my mom could do it so could I. I have class at 8:00am everyday and hate getting ready twice in a day, so I'd make the gym work for me in the morning. It's been a week now and I'm five pounds lighter-yikes?! My body must be in shock, I'm feeling so much more alert and happy though, and sleeping sooooo good at night. Here's one to mom inspiring me once again to be a fit woman and do it right. I'm starting off easy but I'm determined to be looking pretty good by July 1, and so on. Hold me to it, I'm accountable to you all. Love you so much.
fat slammin' kam

Mario Galaxy Magic

2009-01-23T11:44:00.000-08:00

The video begins with Jaren in a crabby mood becoming fed up with a teasing big brother that he says he does not want! However Weston has learned it only takes two little words to change the worse mood in his little brother.
The mood change is miraculous!

love in the little things <3

2009-01-16T21:02:00.000-08:00

Tonight I decided (out of boredom & free time) to paint my fingernails.

This simple act brought me to recall sweet memories I made with Grandma Gardner. <3
One of the few things I claimed after she passed away was her Revlon Liquid Quick Dry, which "Instantly Dries Nail Enamel." :)

Now, this is pretty silly, and I doubt anyone else even took second thought about her nail care and polish crate under her sink in the bathroom, but certain nostalgic feelings arise when I remember her love shown through little actions--one of the many was nail painting. There was a point in my childhood when I remember going to Grandma's house, and for one reason or the other, almost every time I arrived she was either filing or painting her nails. I distinctly remember how perfectly shaped her nails were and how I liked the look of the ridges on her nails through the slightly metallic rose-colored polish. The times I came over and she wasn't doing her nails, I would be sure to grab her supplies for her and drop the "subtle" hint that I'd like her to paint my nails that day. She would always willingly comply by lovingly taking my small hands in her warm, soft hands and placing them on one of the towels that draped over her chair arm rests -- oh how special I felt.

I am so grateful for love in the little things.

Sweet grandma, I love & miss you. <3
here's my heart,
Caitlin Noël

Perfect Weather for Flying!

2009-01-15T21:24:00.000-08:00

Jaren got a customized "Super J" cape for Christmas. Here he is demonstrating his super flying powers locally in his backyard. However, he has been seen flying at supermarkets, haircut stores and even Disneyland. Keep you eye out for further
"Super J" sightings.

Gardner Gang Lovin' D-Land!

2009-01-04T17:32:00.000-08:00

Two Days of Fun at Disneyland! Thank You Grandpa and Grandma!

2009-01-04T17:15:00.000-08:00

Happy Birthday Caitlin! We Love You!

2009-01-04T16:58:00.000-08:00

Christmas Morning, Presents and Scones for Breakfast!

2009-01-04T16:55:00.000-08:00

Homemade Doughnuts w Grandpa and Grandma on Christmas Eve!

2009-01-04T16:47:00.000-08:00

my cheeseie play (rilyn)

2008-12-27T21:36:00.000-08:00

hi Rilyn here,I made a play named life=home the first line of it is...

i am so hungry, Charlotte.

See it is cheeseie!
told you!!!
my cousins and teagan helped with the people in the play

CAST
Charlotte=Eadie
Amy=Toni
apple girl/aunt ceellma=halle
train conductor=sami
Richard=Teagan

director=Rilyn

we performed it at the christmas family get together on Friday 26,Dec. 2008 it was very fun

bye
Rilyn

THe Gardner Caroling Tradition

2008-12-24T12:35:00.000-08:00

Tuesday night the Gardner family loaded into the van to go caroling. This has become a most favorite tradition in our family over the years. As you can see by the picture, there are some definite perks to singing to your friends and neighbors! But way past the generous goodies we seem to accumulate along the way, there are choice experiences and memories that make the season extra bright for us. There is a wonderful spirit of love and joy that is shared between our family and those that open the door to us. There is pleasant surprise,immediate smiles,happiness and often tears. Whatever the circumstance that might be going on before the door is opened, the true spirit of Christmas takes over, for those ten minutes or so there is peace, friendship and a feeling of joy shared between us. What gratitude I have for the gospel of Jesus Christ. How glorious it is to know we are all truly brothers and sisters and that he was born to save us all. May that true joy find a place in our hearts, may we allow it stay awhile, that it can become a feeling we allow to grow and change us for the better.

"Merry Christmas"

2008-12-19T09:05:00.000-08:00

Have you noticed it? People are saying "Merry Christmas".
I've noticed a difference this year. As I have been out and about weather it be the mall or the dentist, I am hearing "Merry Christmas", not, "Have a happy holiday".

I'm feeling happy about this.

It seems believing people are finding their "backbone" again. I for one, have grown tired of my beliefs being lost to "the church of the political right." Yesterday I said very clearly, "Merry Christmas" to the cashier, receptionist and bag boy. No one seemed upset, in fact they seemed extra happy to reciprocate a cheery "Merry Christmas" back.

This morning I signed a teachers weekly report for Rilyn to return to school. She wrote, "Happy Holidays" on the paper,(she's probably not allowed to write anything else, I understand that) I lightly penciled out H.H., signed my name and wrote Merry Christmas on the paper back to her.

To be honest, Rilyn seemed a bit miffed because I ran my pencil lead through H.H. maybe that wasn't necessary, but I wanted to say something-make a small statement, so I did.

It seemed right at the time.It seems right now too.

Merry Christmas.

Some Pictures I love

2008-12-18T09:20:00.000-08:00

Teagan w/ School Ensemble"All I Want for Christmas"

2008-12-12T08:29:00.000-08:00

Extra Credit Time.

2008-12-09T21:19:00.000-08:00

For Bio 100 Dr. Robinson gave us the opportunity to turn in an Extra Credit Project for 50 points. The only requirement is that whatever you turn in must be biologically based. Basically, the universe is the limit. So, taking advantage of Weston being here in Provo for a few days, I decided to put him to work... all last minute of course, but I think the outcome was decent :) I ended up getting the 50 points, so it served its purpose at least.

Just thought I'd share our quick little diddy with you all. (yes, we put it together in less than an hour and at around 11:30 PM...so, by all means, do not expect perfection--but regardless, I hope you ENJOY)

THE LYRICS :)

Biology, Biology ( sung to the tune of "O Christmas Tree, O Christmas Tree")

Biology, biology, thy studies do enthrall me

Biology, biology, I see the trees so lovely

Each lesson learned brings me delight, meaning Doc Robinson was right

Biology, biology, three points make the cell theory.

Biology, Biology, biotic things are living

Biology, biology, basics of chem pertaining

Your teachings range from large to small, in this song I cannot fit all

Biology, biology, energy flow is not cycling

Each lesson learned brings me delight, meaning Doc Robinson was right

Biology, biology I cannot live without thee.

Each lesson learned brings be delight, meaning Doc Robinson was right

Biology, biology please bring me 50 extra credit points!

Up late...unpacking my suitcase

2008-12-08T01:42:00.001-08:00

I know it's late but I figured everyone would really love to hear kam's new song.... over and over and over. She graciously recorded it right before she left for class the last day I was there. Good old sister... how awesome is she?

Early , very early, propaganda for no on 8!

2008-11-25T19:39:00.000-08:00

As we were doing some cleaning out in closets, I happened upon this fan.
We all got a kick out of it!

The Old Grey Box

2008-11-20T16:24:00.000-08:00

The Old Grey Box
(Sung to the tune of “The Old Grey Mare”)

The old gray box,
It ain't where it used to be
Ain't where it used to be,
Ain't where it used to be

The old gray box,
It ain't where it used to be
Were so glad to see it go!

We’re so glad to see it go!
We’re so glad to see it go!
The old gray box,
It ain't where it used to be
Oh we grew to hate it so!

The old gray box,
It sat on the back drive way,
It sat there ugly day by day,
What more can we say?
We’re so happy to see it go!

Love the Google Video Chat!

2008-11-17T09:19:00.000-08:00

If any of you haven't signed on to the Google Video Chat yet, you should. Totally cool. Sunday, we got to talk to and see Caitlin. It was so fun! She would leave the room a second to run and get her friends down the hall,she'd say "Hey do you want to come meet my family?". They'd come in and we could talk, wave hello and actually interact with her friends there.
If you've got a comp. with a camera in it, check it out.

http://mail.google.com/videochat

Silly sisters sing song so sister can see

2008-11-10T09:41:00.000-08:00

"Designated" to Caitlin
WE MISS YOU!

He's a REAL BOY!

2008-11-06T13:36:00.001-08:00

Weston looks like a real boy!

That's one of mom's favorite ways to complement me on my haircuts. Talk about your generic Myspace shot.

Way To Go!

2008-11-05T08:34:00.000-08:00

08 - Eliminates Right of Same-Sex
       Couples to Marry

YES:  5,195,136        52.1%
NO:   4,779,297        47.9%

2008-11-01T09:37:00.000-07:00

Who am I? Happy Halloween!!
The school teachers enjoyed me.
And frankly I enjoyed me.

halloween time.

2008-11-01T02:06:00.001-07:00

Come one, come all--I just thought I'd go ahead add my two cents of Halloween-ness into the mix of things.

I think we all know that Halloween isn't really my favorite ordeal. It just doesn't do all that much for me. Regardless, I went through a mental list of activities I could take part in to occupy my night.

I had the apartment to myself for a while... so i decided to clean :) Why not do something productive and enjoy some lovely Frank Sinatra while I was at it? Plus a few cute kids stopped by to trick-or-treat <3> little visitors, and old jazz to fill my soul... what can compare to that? :) haha. The next question was... "What to do next?"

Here are the options I had:

Party with Kamden and her friends. [potentially a fine time]
Go to the Heritage Halls Central Building for a "Haunted Hollywood" Dance. [blah]
Study for my American Heritage Midterm [haha- rigggght]
SLEEEP [sounded pretty nice]
-or- Chill at "home" and find a movie to watch [was quite fitting to my mood]

Here is what ended up happening:

I did Christi's makeup all pretty and shimmery for her Halloween costume. She was a dragonfly--THAT was so FUN! Makeup equals love. :D
Then Michelle came over... annd she asked me to "fix" her hair. I thought it looked totally fine--but, hey, am I really going to turn down the opportunity to do make up AND hair in the same day? No way! :) Looveedd it-- You can't tell from the pictures, but i did a bunch of twists pulled back. [Mom, I might not be around to do Britt's make up or the girls' hair, but my friends have me staying in practice] YAY. :)
Michelle and I made the executive decision to casually stop by the dance... yes, go to the costume dance in casual clothes. :) Hey, I had orange and black on okay? I gave in at least a little. [We gave it a try, but the dance was not quite our scene...so we left after 3 minutes and headed to Hans's apartment...hung out there for a good hour or so.]
Thennn, Michelle and Hans invited me to go with people from their FHE group to go see the musical, Sweeney Todd at 11. It was at an outdoor amphitheater [pretty cool]. A ton of deer passed behind the stage area in the middle of the first act. It was kind of funny because you heard a ton of whispers at that point... I think more people paid attention to the deer than the actors for those 30 seconds or so. :) Also, it started to rain just as Act II began, luckily it wasn't like DOWNPOUR or anything. Anyhow, I had a really good time and turns out there were a tons of people from our ward that went too. We kept bumping into different people. Good times. Basically, Michelle is my lifesaver and favorite :) She kept saying, "Caitlin, I'm glad we're friends." She's fabulous.
We got home around 2... annnd called it a night :) A good one at that. Yay.

PiCtUrEs---

take serious pictures? hah one’s enough. :)

<3

Costume Fun

2008-10-31T23:29:00.000-07:00

Every year I say, "We are going to keep it simple. No big Halloween costumes, just use whatever is in the boxes." But every year we get such fun ideas for costumes, I can't help myself from creating something fun for not very much. The thing i've found with this approach t is, when you don't what to spend a lot of money, you trade what you save, for time you spend.

However, it is the time well spent with each kid that makes the time worth the effort. Even with a big kid like Wes. It was fun watching his design for his Key Blade, come to reality. Some PVC pipe, fittings, spray paint cardboard and lots of hot glue, put all together made for a pretty great looking prop for the Kingdom Hearts video game hero, "Sora" he portrayed. We shopped Salvation Army for the pants and vest (actually a ladies jacket transformed) Target for a cheap t-shirt, cut the fingers off of some gloves and ironed on some designs for fun. The hair was grown out for a couple months just for this character. You can't beat "Got 2 B Glued" Freeze spray for that amazing permanent wind blown look! Way to go Wes! Jaren and Brittan's costumes were really fun and pretty simple they made great Violets and Dashes from The Incredibles. Rilyn made a very cute Hippie and Teagan did use the Robin costume we put together last year, from the box.

No much else got accomplished besides costume creating and trick or treating today - hey, that was fun!

Look it's Dash!

2008-10-31T14:01:00.000-07:00

Jaren say's, "Trick or Treating is Incredible!"

Jaren's Pumpkin

2008-10-29T22:11:00.000-07:00

Rally's are Fun!!!

2008-10-29T21:05:00.001-07:00

Yes on 8 Statewide Media Bus Tour Proves to be a Success
Yesterday wrapped up the very successful "Stand Up for Traditional Marriage" bus tour. After launching the tour last Monday in Sacramento to an enthusiastic crowd at Riverside Wesleyan church, we ended our statewide journey at Skyline Church in San Diego with a strong crowd of over 1,000 supporters. Nearly every single television station in San Diego covered our rally and witnessed hundreds of people expressing their commitment to restore the traditional definition of marriage on Election Day. - This was fun I went with my Mom and we yelled and chanted, got fired up by some super good pulpit pounding preachers and other leaders of the Protect Marriage organization. The best thing they said was . "It's one thing to cheer and wave signs in a parking lot, it's another to leave from here, make phone calls, and volunteer to help get the voters out!"

Happy Birthday Rilyn!

2008-10-28T11:35:00.000-07:00

Rilyn turned 9! The highlight for all of our birthday girls is to go shopping with grandma Carpenter! It is such a fun day out when you are with Grandma. Can't believe it has been 9 years since we brought home our tiny little 5lbs. baby Ri! What a creative, energetic, happy and loving girl you are! Love You!

Rilyn makes Peter Pan Jr. Theater

2008-10-24T09:53:00.000-07:00

Rilyn is excited to be in the upcoming production of "Oliver!" by the Peter Pan Jr. Theater. If you know Rilyn, this should be just her "cup of tea". She will be acting, singing and dancing with the workhouse kids and Fagan's gang during the show. The production will be this Spring , March 30 - April 4, 2009 at the Joan B. Kroc Theatre. Hope to see you there!

Funny Picture

2008-10-23T14:30:00.000-07:00

See the toy car Jaren is holding? Actually it is not a car at all, it is a very flat plate you can eat off of. But in this picture, it looks like a 3D toy car. Weird.

Happy 3rd Brithday Jaren!!!

2008-10-22T22:25:00.000-07:00

Jaren rides the Merry-Go-Round. He said, "It goes fast!"

Happy Birthday to you! Those presents had lots of Thomas Train Toys. Choo choo!

Jaren has a chocolate shake to celebrate.

It is hard to smile small when you've got so much happy inside!

A Trip to the Pumpkin Patch

2008-10-22T16:34:00.000-07:00

If you have a pre-schooler you've got to make a Pumkin Patch trip! It was fun, thank you Jaren!

Safe

2008-10-17T21:11:00.000-07:00

This is the acoustic version, the band plays it as well, sounds great- one of my favorites.

P B 7:10 Beach Club - "Battle for theNice Guy"

2008-10-17T10:24:00.000-07:00

Can't Help But Love Him

2008-10-14T20:54:00.000-07:00

Grandma says he's spoiled. He probably is ..just a little, but just look at him!
Cute, cute, cute. That's it, just caught me in a bragging moment- sorry. (not really)

A Little Boys Dream Come True

2008-10-13T16:13:00.000-07:00

Jaren loves big machines. Bulldozers, backhoes, scrapers and dump trucks. You name it he loves them. For mom and me "field trips" I scout the area for local areas that are being dug up or built up using big machines. The next day or so Jaren and I pack a lunch, walk or drive to the area, park, make ourselves comfortable and take in the live show. It is so fun. This morning the "show" was right in front of our driveway! Jaren must have been praying for this one for a while.

The Picts

2008-10-12T19:32:00.000-07:00

kamden and tyler in the fall

2008-10-12T19:10:00.000-07:00

Hello all,
I may have changed my name, but I'm sure as heck still part of the Gardner Gang, and Tyler has been adopted into us too. We are here in Provo, I'm a full time student in the Elementary Education Major at BYU and I just started a new job working with some research with a dual immersion scho0ol up in Salt Lake City, I miss my missionaries a lot but know this job is a huge blessing and a great opportunity. Tyler is taking a couple classes but working full time for an internet coaching company and doing very well as a manager there. We are so happy, and loving being married, we tell each other everyday how lucky we are to have such a sweet relationship. It's been so fun to have Caitlin up here too, it's awesome to have family close, I've waited for that for seven years.
This past weekend was conference and we had some people from my mission staying with us it was there first time in Utah and at conference, what an amazing experience it was to see their eyes light up with tears to see the prophet only a few rows in front of them and feeling the strength of the saints in the conference center. Edgar was the one strong baptism I saw baptized and to the temple and still remains strong. Being with him at conference and having him in my home was so powerful. Unforgettable. What a blessing it was to have all of these sweet friends in my own home with my husband when they had given me so much as a missionary. I felt it such a privilege that they would think of me to host them of all the missionaries that they could have called I love them. It was so great to hear Tyler speaking spanish and interacting and loving these people who mean so much to me too. I can't wait to get to his mission someday and feel that same for those wonderful saints of El Salvador. What a blessing it is to live in these days. United in the faith, united in Christ.

a hello from caitlin noel

2008-10-11T15:29:00.001-07:00

GAHHHH! I just spent 2 hours writing this REALLY LONG POST! and now it's gone. Story of my existence.

Sorry mom, I tried. Maybe I'll give it a GO some other time. Goodness gracious, SO frustrating! :(

Here are some pictures.
1) Sunday Conference... @ Emily and Cory's
2) Lynette and I after the Spectacular (Neither of us look amazing, but you get the idea)
3) Yeah. Just me... the crazy one.
4) A pic from today.

No More Brace Face!

2008-10-10T22:18:00.000-07:00

Brittan found her smile today...it was missing for two years! Cheese!

Stand For Something!

2008-10-09T06:42:00.000-07:00

I get it now.

I've really always understood the importance of protecting marriage and of course I would vote yes on Prop 8. But until a few weeks ago I didn't see the big picture. But now I do and I'm feeling a bit ticked off.

You know we are told to be nice, to respect others and even love everyone. I know this is true. But somehow I feel like we have "being niced" ourselves into being taken advantaged of. I think of this past conference and the references to the Book of Mormon example of Amalickiah poisoning Lehonti by degrees, so that he could accomplish his ultimate goal of taking over the kingdom of the Lamanites. (Alma 47) I feel we too are being poisoned by degrees.

I was talking to a friend of mine about Prop 8 and we agreed whole heartily about everything it encompasses. I offered some bumper stickers for their cars. My friend said they would put them on one of their cars but not the one that was driven to work. They explained that their boss was a Lesbian and they were fearful of offending her if she saw the bumper sticker.

What the Heck?! What about us?!

I'm greatly offended that if we don't stop being afraid of offending someone simply because we are professing our beliefs, soon we may not have the very right to believe and worship as we do now.

I will come clean about this, I admit when Prop 8 bumper stickers became available I was hesitate to put it on my car. First I am not a bumper sticker person to begin with, but mostly it was because I pictured our new van being egged, keyed or otherwise vandalized by opponents of Prop 8. But last Sunday, everything sunk in and I decided I was not going to be intimidated anymore, I will not be slowly poisoned and allow my kingdom to be taken over. I put that bumper sticker on our car and have felt great about it ever since.

There have been many profound things said about this issue that I could share here, but for now I would like to type a quote I found given by a local pastor in our city. I don't know him and I don't attend his church, but I appreciate that he puts into words what I have been feeling about this whole thing but haven't been able to express adequately myself.

"My graduate studies are in historical theology and the history of the church. On rare occasions, there come 'tipping points,' times which, when viewed later, proved to be the 'hinges' of history. All historians recognize them a half century later. But the key is for discerning persons to recognize them as they are happening, and then respond appropriately.

"We are at one of those moments. This is THE major change point of the last few decades. While the abortion issue is a foundational issue, the marriage definition issue is a survival issue. No single social issue has threatened to forever muzzle Bible believing Christians like this contest.

"If we lose on this one, the culture loses. One person has astutely observed that ’we cannot win the culture war merely on Prop 8, but we can lose it on Prop 8.'

"It is imperative that all pastors and Christian leaders view this for what it is: an irretrievable moment, with profound and lasting consequences. We must vigorously support Prop 8, as if our ministries and our lives depend on it. Ultimately, they will."

-Dr. Jim Garlow
Senior Pastor
Skyline Wesleyan Church
CA
Leader, CA Pastors Rapid Response Team

Two different worlds one night

2008-10-02T21:28:00.000-07:00

So Wednesday night we enjoyed Teagan's Evening with Ensemble concert. She did great, sang "Breakout" by Miley Cyrus, smiled, danced and "sold" the song. You go girl! Teagan is the fourth Gardner girl to sing in LMMS Ensemble.

After the show we dropped the kids off at home and headed to Pacific Beach. Weston's band was playing down in a little place called 7 10 right next to the pier. I hadn't been to PB for awhile and was surprised at how busy it was on a Wednesday night. Lots of restaurants, bar and grills packed with people and bands playing in all of them.

We found a parking place and found Weston and his band mates waiting outside with other bands and their instruments. Weston informed us the two bands that had canceled earlier that day showed up after all, so that had pushed back their playing time about an hour and a half.

We would have gone inside to hear some bands however, the noise (not music) that was coming out of the place was hideous. Weston said it was called "Scream-O" What? Scream- O? Have you ever heard this stuff? Wow. As we stood outside being assaulted from the inside, we discussed it and decided that this was the kind of "music" that was played in Hell. Wailing and gnashing of teeth for sure. Tortured souls definitely. One band after the other went in and screamed their guts out over ear piercing noise, they some how made come out of perfectly good instruments. The thing that got me was there were actual people in the club sitting at tables drinking and talking with the other people around them. It made me wonder,
1.) How could they hear?

2.) Why would they choose to be in a room where people were screaming at them? After all, who likes to be screamed at?

It was just very strange.

Doug and I had some time to kill so we took advantage of our time together and walked up the boardwalk, took in the beach scene and shared a banana split.

Soon we were paged and it was time to head back.

After their first song, Weston introduced his band as "the pop band that was invited to the rock show" They did awesome. What a great show they put on. It was so fun to listen to some good music by talented young musicians that were happy and positive.

The crowd actually listened and applauded.

"Hey everybody, welcome to the other side!"

Thursday Night Song (revampted)

2008-09-27T06:38:00.000-07:00

I have a girl-friend I have stayed in close contact with for 30+ years. I went to her 16th birthday party and we've been buds ever since. I'll tell you, she is a gem, a real treasure. She lives in central Washington and we both wish we could live in the same town again. But we don't, so we have shared our friendship over the years mostly through phone calls, holiday cards and e-mails. Most recently however, we have set up a blog (she is the designer, I just post) that celebrates our friendship over the years. We named it "Old Friends Grown Here" It has been a blast and a new way to shorten the distance between our families. This video is on our blog but I wanted to post it here because It was so much fun recording it with Weston, I wanted it on our family site as well.

Anyway, this song is a silly song my friend and I put together when we were 18 and were bored on a Thursday night. We had baked some cookies, recorded this song and taken it to a few sisters in our ward we thought could use some cheering up. We put the cookies on the doorstep with the tape recorder and a sign that said "push play" knocked and then hid. It was great fun. It was great fun hanging with Weston when we recorded too. You should have seen the out takes!

Big Sister Narrates Little Brother's Fun at the Beach

2008-09-16T18:47:00.000-07:00

Busy boy Jaren entertaines himself at the beach. Love this kid! And the one narrating too!

Seeing Kids Leave..

2008-08-27T11:28:00.000-07:00

I remember when I was about 17 years old and I was in the grocery store with my Dad. We were in the bread isle and I made some smart aleck comment about something and it made him really laugh. Then, I've never forgoten what he said to me next. He said, " Why is it that just when your kids turn into people you really like to be around, they leave and other people get to enjoy them?"

I know this is a subject that most everyone has had experience with at one point or another in their life. And like most points in life once you get by them, it somehow becomes old news because you've moved on to a different place and are interested in what's happening at that point in your life. So the subject of kids moving out is one I've heard a thousand times and have experienced twice, well thrice...counting yesterday. But I want to talk about it even though everyone else probably already has gone past this..but this is my blog and I can talk about what I want, right?

Caitlin left for BYU. Cait is our third child to leave home. As each one has left, we have gained more experience in how to better prepare them for the event. What to pack what not. What to say and suggest and what not to say and not suggest. But there's still that odd feeling that comes with saying good bye.

Good bye to that time in your life, that, as soon as they are gone, it will be different...even if they come back, it will still never be the same.

As I was walking back to the car alone , there was a strange sense of accomplishment, in fact, if Doug had been with me, I would have shared a high five with him as we walked out the doors. Good Job! Way to go! But then there's the other feeling. Wow. There gone. Not dead, I know...but still gone in a lot of ways. Doug called me as I was driving home to see how everything went. Then he asked me about what was happening that night, the schedules, the events, where the kids were going to be, the same conversation we have at one point during the day, just about every day. Then it hit me. All the places in my mind where Caitlin would normally be filled in there was a blank. That was weird. Then I didn't feel like a high five, instead I cried.

Parenting is such a strange occupation really. I mean, I don't have a job I get money for. I don't work for a company that recognizes my skills, rewards my hard work or gives me raises for an amazing project I completed or new clients I've recruited. I don't have certificates on my walls that show that I am a certified "something great." Yet, like yesterday, it seemed like there should have been something. Doug and I just invested 18 1/2 years of our life into that kid I just left at the airport. Where's our certificate of achievement? Why wasn't that moment announced on the loud speaker so that everyone there could break out into applause and I could get great pats on the back as I left to get in my car? Instead I forgot my parking receipt out of the Express Pay machine and was reported at the parking booth and even had my license plate numbers called in to see if I was in the habit of trying to rip off the Lindburgh Field Parking Lot on a regular basis.

So, I know... that's it. It's the way it has always gone and the way it will always be and that's OK with me. Really. I just think it is funny that the most time consuming, heart wrenching, joyful job is so common. - So common that most everyone has felt the way I did yesterday so it's just something that happens and you move on.

That's good. And I have.

Just think, only three more years and we can do it all over again.

Cool.

By the way, Doug and I did share I high five later that day, we couldn't help it, we had just accomplished something really wonderful.

San Diego Stake Youth experience Pioneer Trek

2008-08-19T09:28:00.000-07:00

After a year of planning and preparing about 125 San Diego Stake youth spent Aug. 4 - Aug. 1oth traveling to Wyoming, Idaho and Utah. Caitlin, Brittan and Teagan were put into "families" and companies to walk in the footsteps and experience in a small way the journey of the Willie and Martin Handcart Companies. It was an unforgettable and testimony building experience. After the trek, the traveled to Idaho to swim in the Lava Hot Springs. Then to the Manti Temple to do Baptisms for the Dead. Next was Temple square tour and a surprise lunch in a near by park, provided by a wonderful Stake there in Salt Lake. Kamden and Tyler met up with the sisters there for a visit. Our San Diego group traveled farther than any other group to experience the Wyoming Pioneer Trek. All that attended, had pioneer clothing hand made by selfless, dedicated sisters of San Diego Stake. The Missionaries called to the Martin/Willie Handcart Wyoming Mission commented that our group will go down in the mission record as the most remarkable group that has ever participated in the Trek experience!

Good Morning Milo Rocks the House

2008-08-19T08:35:00.000-07:00

The Concert was awesome. There were about 90 people in attendance, everyone was up on their feet enjoying the show. The management, videographer , sound technicians and bands that followed were blown away, couldn't believe it was GMM's first show. We sold about 50 CD's that night and nearly 100 more since. GMM songs will be available on itunes Oct.2008. Or CD's always available through band members. Check them out at www.myspace.com\goodmorningmilo

Thanks for your support!

Weston's Band Performs!

2008-06-28T10:27:00.000-07:00

Weston's Band "Good Morning Milo" Will be performing in El Cajon at 172 East Main Street, on July 26, 2008 @7:00pm. Tickets at the door are $8.00. ($6.00 if you buy them from Weston)
Good Morning Milo will be the first to perform that night!

A story on the venue, "Channel Twelve 25" was recently featured in the San Diego Union Tribune, June 28, 2008, Our East County, pg.5

Caitlin Graduates!

2008-06-10T09:04:00.000-07:00

Three down four to go! Congratulations Caitlin! We love you so!

Reverse Mohawk by Jaren Gardner

2008-06-07T15:16:00.000-07:00

How do you like it?

Oh the Life that I Live

2008-05-23T20:34:00.000-07:00

May 23, 2008

Oh the life that I live
I run and I go.
To places and projects
For kids that I know.

There’s science, the arts,
history, speeches and such
I stay up late testing,
reviewing and gluing so much

At times I forget,
School I have finished!
I think the late nights
My brain cells they've diminished!

Yet for years I have done it
Make no mistake.
To help and encourage
Good grades for their sakes.

So I continue to do
what it is that mom’s do
Enjoying the years
And Counting my blessings
For I know, time is short
To spend with these nestlings.

The life that I live
It is sweet
So rewarding
More of the same
I would like
Time affording.

But I know, too soon they will leave
Far away they will stay
With their own families
They’ll call home and will say

“Oh Mom, I was up late last night with the kids.”
“Helped them with homework
And projects, I did.”

But for now, it’s me, that’s here
Another project done
We worked together
Learned a lot
Laughed and had fun.

There is one wish,
one thing, I’d endeavor
I hope you don’t think
My wit, be too cleaver,

But to flop in my bed now
Would be so delightful
Oh to deny such a wish for a mom
Would be spiteful.

For the life of a Mom
Can be tough and exhausting
But, to give up now
Would be wrong and too costly.

For the life that I live
Is not mine now but for others.
God bless me as I learn
To be my kids mother.

The Tree

2008-05-07T13:04:00.000-07:00

OK, so we have this tree in our backyard. I think everyone that sees the picture on the right, will know the tree I'm talking about. It is a true family tree. I have been married to Doug for 27 years this October and so I have become very familiar with this tree. I know Doug's siblings and their children who are all older than mine, have been familiar with this tree longer than I. It has been around for over 50 years. I think it is in most all the family photographs and videos. If pictures or videos were taken in the backyard, the tree is in them. People outside the family that come around the back always comment on the tree, especially during the summer when it looks like this. We are always asked,what kind of tree is it? Just so you know it's, a Fruitless Mulberry.

There is history with this tree. as it has stood there over the years, I wonder how many Easter egg hunts, pool parties, roadshow practices, church activities, big wheel races, pitching practice, tennis strokes and skateboard wipe outs it has witnessed. How many Gardner children and grandchildren have ventured up into the highest branchs all the while giving their mothers heart attacks. How many babies have been swung in the tire swing? How many blankets have been spread and tables set up on the grass under its shade, for picnics? And how many pinatas have been hung and smashed open while swinging from a branch of this tree? Lots of life has happened around it.

I bet most people don't know that this tree has a life of it's own, there is a cycle it goes through every year. I feel it is our Southern California way of actually tracking the seasons.

In the Spring, the tree shoots out little green leaf buds that grow out on long narrow branches. The branches reach up to 15 to 20 feet long by summertime. In late fall, the leaves turn bright yellow and eventually drop to the ground making a bight gold blanket underneath. Every year the leaves bring playing times, raking time and crunching time to the family. Leaves have been gathered and stacked for pretend food. Stacked in wagons to haul from on end of the yard to another, and piled on top of others for hiding places. Our family has coined the phrase,
"Leaf happens" because of this time of year.

Meanwhile back to the tree, when the last leaf falls all that is left are long narrow branches shooting out all over the tree. I'd guess there are about 200 of these branches left naked after the leaves are shed. Most people don't realize that those branches need to be cut off every year, to assure a nicely shaped tree for the following summer.

The tree is left in this stage for as long as possible, because the family knows what a pain it is to cut the branches off every year. The job calls for a chainsaw and a man. A dad, son, nephew or cousin will do. I don't think a female has ever cut the branches off the tree in the history of the cycle. Hum.

This part is aways an adventure for everyone involved. Exciting for the one wielding the chainsaw to balance on the branches cutting them down. Nerve racking for the people that love the chainsaw wielder as they watch them balancing on the branches to cut them down. And challenging for the kids below that love to watch the chainsaw wielder while staying clear of the falling branches that are being cut down!

Too soon the excitements over and we are unfortunately brought to the dreaded next step.

Yes seeing 200, 20 foot branches left all over the backyard brings us to the "the pain in the neck" time in the tree's cycle. We are so glad the "cutting down" stage is over and not looking forward to the job ahead, we are not real great about immediately picking up the branches after they are cut off.

So they lie around the yard for a while.

It is annoying to try work around them and walk over them, but we put up with the annoyance for a while, over having to face the work it will take to put them away. Meanwhile many kids have enjoyed creating many a Tepee by standing the long branches on end or enjoyed long distance sword fights or pretend fishing with extra long poles

Sooner or later we all run out of imagination or get sick of trapesing over the branches and decide to make a plan to venture into the next stage of the tree cycle.

I'm not sure why I despise this part of having the tree, but I do.

The process is madding really, you've got to gather all the very long branches into piles. Not that easy- as they are all tangled around each other and piled on top of each other. You pick up one end and try to find where it ends, only to find you have to pick up 14 other branches before you can actually get to the one you want.

Eventually, you do get them all into piles. The next part, I think would be easier if we were not so cheap and/or we had a truck we could skip it altogether,but we are and we don't, so that's reality.

The sticks stay in the piles until we get around to cutting them up short enough to put in to the green recycle cans. Of course we only have a limited amount of cans, so this takes several weeks to get rid of all the sticks. I'm always so relieved when they are all finally gone and the process of this stage is officially finished.

For the next several months the tree stands bare and nubby. People not familiar with the tree, seeing it in this stage, always have a hard time believing us when we tell them the tree will shoot out long branches full of beautiful green leaves again in the Spring.

This year was unique, it was decided that the tree needed to be cut back. Waaay back. It was too big and over grown. It hadn't been cut back in many years and it was past due. So not only were the long sticks cut off, but the huge ends of the tree branches were also cut off as well. These huge ends that were cut off were, well, really, really heavy. When we finally got around to loading them on to a truck, to take to the dump, some of the stumps took four men to move.

So now with the sticks and stumps hauled away, we are left with an, um, very ugly tree. Very.
It was bad. It made reason stare at the thought of it ever growing back again.

So the worry starts and you think, we killed it. We went too far, it's finished. How could anything that old and that stumpy ever renew it's self again? More importantly, am I going to have to look at that ugly tree outside forever.?" It stood there in the yard day after day like a petrified, amputated octopus.

It was awful. All we could do was wait. Wait and hope.

The days went by and every so often on our way out, we'd stop and look the tree over for any signs of life. There were no signs not even a hint.

Until one day... and several months later...

Doug came home, walked through the door and asked,"Did you see it?" "Did you see the tiny green buds on the tree?"

Unbelievable, but true. There were little green buds popping through that old 50 year old bark!

There was hope.

Since that day the little green buds have continued to pop out of the branches. They are sparse in some areas. We can tell that the tree won't be as full and beautiful this summer as in the past. But we think it will eventually catch up and get back to it's old self again.

It's funny how little things in your life can have such an impact on you. I didn't realize how much our life revolved around this backyard tree.

You know, if it had died, I would have really missed it.

-Susan

"Things to do with Erica."

2008-03-21T16:36:00.000-07:00

Rilyn, our 8 year old, was anticipating a day to play with her friend Erica. She wanted to be sure they were never bored so she typed out a list of ideas titled, "What to do with Erica."

I thought I'd post them here in case any of you find yourselves in a similar situation.

Watch a Movie
Do a tap-dance routine
Jump up! Start running! Race!
Bird watching
Write a screen play about a boy, who can not swim.
Ride a bicycle
Draw
Staring contest
Breath contest
Makeovers
Play super heroes
Pool
School

The Boys

2008-03-20T18:15:00.000-07:00

Just so you know, these are our boys. There are nineteen years and four sisters between them, but they are buddies none the less. When big brother got back from the mission he noticed little bro. wasn't real street wise when it came to defending himself against the sisters "attacks". So he taught him the dishtowel beat-down. Now, instead of looking bewildered and defeated, Super J runs and grabs a dishtowel and swats with great energy, giant strokes of little brother beat-down. The sisters cower and retreat for cover. -

"Don't mess wit the brudders!"

2008-03-19T22:33:00.001-07:00

Here are the Super Seven piled on Grandma's and Grandpa's couch.

(l-r) Caitlin, Kamden, Weston, Rilyn (fr.) Jaren (b) Brittan & Teagan

First try.

2008-03-19T17:12:00.000-07:00

So I love looking through the family's blogs, and I finally decided to add ours to the mix. I think I have arrived at sort of an unique place in life. Our first born was just married last December and our youngest is 2. If I were more on top of things, I could have been preparing for a wedding and potting training at the same time. But mostly what I get out of having a wide range of children, is I can see so clearly how fast time goes by. Being in this place, I think has really taught me to soak up and appreciate the time I have everyday with them. I'm not as good as I'd like to be, but I am a lot better than I used to be.
Things that used to really bother me, I can get by now. When I look at my kids I see them young, and at still at home. They are so magical to me. It is really a sweet time to have them here. To have their busy schedules, backpacks, hot wheels, soccer socks and softball mitts around. I love their questions, jokes, concerns, laughter all manifesting themselves in their varied personalities and unique energies. But the best part is at the end of the day when everyone is at home and it all gets mixed up together. It sounds like...home...my home.